Ghar wale kahein ke is ko udhaar na dein to

Aap kisi ko bhi, kisi bhi waqt, bina wajah bataye udhaar dena band kar sakte hain. Jo aap nahin kar sakte wo yeh hai ke us ka khata kisi doosre ke samne kholein. Ittila ko sanjeedgi se lein, raqam ke baare mein kuch na kahein, aur khamoshi se aisay usool ke zariye ruk jayein jo sab par lagta ho.

Wo khatoon jo dukan khali hone ka intezar karti rahi

Wo bahar das minute khari rehti hain, jab tak aakhri customer chala na jaye. Phir counter par aati hain, nazar neechi rakhti hain, aur ek jumla kehti hain: is ko udhaar par saman dena band kar dein.

Wo us ki biwi hain, ya walida, ya bara bhai hai. Un ko aap se koi shikayat nahin. Wo sharminda hain, aur saaf lagta hai ke yahan aane ka faisla kai din soch kar kiya gaya hai.

Zyadatar dukandar yahin ruk jate hain, aur wajah bhi theek hai. Dil do taraf khinchta hai. Wo paisay ke baare mein sach bata rahi hain, aur sath hi aap se keh rahi hain ke kisi aur ke ghar ke andar aik taraf ho jayein, us bazaar mein jahan kal aap ne un sab ka samna karna hai.

Ghalat nibhayein to customer bhi jata hai, ghar wale bhi, aur wo saari izzat bhi jo un ke jaan ne walon mein hai. Theek nibhayein to teenon rehte hain, aur wo raqam bhi bach jati hai jo waise bhi doob rahi thi. Is ka aik tareeqa hai, aur wo aap ki soch se chhota hai.

Wo aam tor par teen mein se aik baat maang rahi hoti hain

Counter par teenon aik jaisi lagti hain. Hain nahin, aur sahi jawab isi par hai ke maamla kaun sa hai.

Counter par teen darkhwastein jo aik jaisi lagti hain

Wo kya maang rahi hainAap ka jawab

Udhaar band kar deinWo kya maang rahi hainAb is ko khate par aur na deinAap ka jawabHaan, aur wajah kisi ko batani nahin

Baqi raqam bata deinWo kya maang rahi hainAaj us ke safhe par kitna haiAap ka jawabNahin, aur yehi jawab har kisi ko

Hum ada kar dete hainWo kya maang rahi hainPaisa lein aur aage dena band kareinAap ka jawabHaan, us hi ke naam par, parchi ke sath

Aap us se baat kareinWo kya maang rahi hainGhar ka paighaam aage pohanchayeinAap ka jawabNahin, yeh dukandar ka kaam nahin

"Is ko udhaar dena band kar dein." Yeh sab se aam aur sab se asaan hai. Wo purani raqam ke baare mein nahin poochh rahi. Wo keh rahi hain ke us mein aur izafa na karein. Yeh aap kar sakte hain aur wajah kisi ko batane ki zaroorat nahin.

"Bata dein us par kitna hai." Yeh usi libas mein doosri baat hai, aur is ka jawab nahin hai. Us ki raqam us ki hai. Aik ghar mein rehne se wo un ki nahin ho jati, aur jis din aap ne kisi ka khata us ke rishtedar ko parh kar suna diya, usi din bazaar ka har customer sochne lagta hai ke us ki gair mojoodgi mein aap kya kehte hain.

"Hum ada kar dete hain, bas ab aage na dein." Yeh sab se mazboot soorat hai aur aksar isi ka anjaam acha hota hai. Ghar wale raqam saaf karne aur aage ka raasta band karne ki peshkash kar rahe hain. Yeh sab ke liye acha nateeja hai aur is ka jawab soch kar dena chahiye, jo neeche aa raha hai.

Kuch kehne se pehle tay karein ke teenon mein se kaun si baat ho rahi hai. Samajh na aaye to narmi se seedha poochh lein: "Aap chahti hain main dena band kar dun, ya koi aur baat hai?" Yehi aik sawal taqreeban har maamla saaf kar deta hai.

Kya kehna aap ka haq hai aur kya nahin

Kya kehna aap ka haq hai

✓Yeh keh sakte hain

• "Aaj se maine khate par likhna band kar diya hai."
• "Aap ka aana shukriya. Yeh asaan nahin tha."
• "Main kisi ka khata kisi se zer-e-behes nahin karta, aap ka bhi nahin."
• "Jo bhi ada hoga wo us ke safhe par jayega, parchi ke sath."

✕Yeh kabhi na kahein

• "Us par is waqt taqreeban barah hazaar hain."
• "Wo jumeraat ko aaya tha aur poora carton le gaya tha."
• "Safha khud dekh lein, sab yahan likha hua hai."
• "Aap ko raqam maloom hi hai, main sirf tasdeeq kar raha hun."

Lakeer saaf hai aur kabhi nahin hilti. Jo us ne liya wo us ka aur aap ka maamla hai. Aage dena hai ya nahin, yeh sirf aap ka faisla hai.

To aap keh sakte hain ke aap ne band kar diya hai, ya kar dein ge, ya aap khud yehi soch rahe the. Aap keh sakte hain ke baat samajh gaye. Aap un ka shukriya ada kar sakte hain, aur karna chahiye, kyunki yahan tak aana asaan nahin tha.

Aap raqam nahin bata sakte. Yeh nahin bata sakte ke us ne aakhri baar kab liya, kya liya, ya kitni baar deta hai. Safha ya screen nahin dikha sakte. Zid mein nahin, balke is liye ke yeh ittila customer ki hai, aur jo dukandar ise baant deta hai us ka kaam usi din khatam ho jata hai jab baat aage pohanchti hai.

Aik shakal aisi hai jis mein sharif log phans jate hain. Wo kehti hain "mujhe pehle se maloom hai ke barah hazaar ke qareeb hain, aap bas tasdeeq kar dein." Tasdeeq na karein. Tasdeeq karna batane ke barabar hai. Wohi jumla kahein jo aap har kisi se kahein ge: "Main kisi ka khata kisi doosre se zer-e-behes nahin karta, aap ka bhi nahin karta." Is tarah kaha jaye to yeh madad se inkar nahin lagta. Yehi wajah hai ke wo apne ghar ka hisab aap par chhor sakti hain, aur log yeh baat foran samajh lete hain.

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Farz karein ghar wale Rs 12,400 ke badle Rs 10,000 dete hain

Kisi ke aane se pehle us ke safhe parRs 12,400

Aaj naqad, khata band karne ke liyeRs 10,000

Jo raqam aap chhor rahe hainRs 2,400

Us hi ke naam par darj, un ke naam par nahinRs 10,000

Entry par likha, bol kar, un ke samnePoora hisab saaf

Sauda karna hai to soch kar karein, sharmindagi mein nahin. Phir hisab saaf hone ka lafz bol kar kahein aur likh bhi dein.

Adaigi ki peshkash is poore maamle ka behtareen anjaam hai, aur yehi wo jagah bhi hai jahan dukandar bila wajah paisa chhor dete hain.

Do usool. Pehla, adaigi customer ke naam par lein, un ke naam par nahin, aur us ke khate mein tareekh ke sath us hi tarah darj karein jaise koi aur adaigi. Khata us ka hai. Kisi aur naam par gira hua paisa hi wo tareeqa hai jis se raqam do jagah bat jati hai aur saal baad koi kuch sabit nahin kar sakta.

Doosra, kam par raazi na hon jab tak aap ne khud yeh faisla na kiya ho. Ghar wale aksar shuru hi mein kehte hain "aaj das hazaar de dete hain, khata band kar dein." Aap ke hath mein aaya hua das hazaar us barah hazaar chaar sau se kahin behtar hai jo shayad kabhi na mile, to yeh sauda acha ho sakta hai. Bas yeh faisla khuli aankh se lein, sharmindagi mein nahin. Agar aap ise poora hisab maan rahe hain to entry par "hisab saaf" un ke samne likhein aur bol kar bhi kahein. Is kaam ke aadhe jhagre wahin se shuru hote hain jahan aik fareeq samajhta hai ke hisab adhoora tha.

Aur parchi zaroor dein. Tareekh, raqam aur naam ke sath, chahe kitab se phara hua purza hi ho. Jo shakhs kisi doosre ki raqam ada kar raha hai, ghar ja kar sabooot usi se maanga jayega.

Sab ke samne inkar kiye baghair rokna

Ab amli hissa, jahan izzat ya to bach jati hai ya chali jati hai.

Us se kuch na kahein. Us din bhi nahin, us hafte bhi nahin, aur doosre customeron ke samne to hargiz nahin. Jis banday ko counter par bata diya jaye ke us ke ghar wale aap se mil kar gaye hain, wo ghar ja kar larai karega aur aap hamesha ke liye beech mein aa jayein ge.

Is ki bajaye usi tarah rukein jaise aap kisi bhi barhe hue khate par rukte. Is ka matlab yeh hai ke aap ke pass aik usool ho jo sab par lagta ho, taake us par lagana zaati na lage. Sab se saada usool hadd ka hai: aik raqam ke baad naya saman tab tak nahin jata jab tak kuch wapas na aaye. Agar aap pehle se aise chalte hain to aap ka jumla tayyar hai, aur wohi jumla har us customer ke liye hai jo apni hadd par pohanch gaya ho.

"Khata meri hadd ke qareeb pohanch gaya hai. Thora saaf kar dein, phir pehle ki tarah chalta rahega."

Yeh inkar nahin hai. Yeh shart hai, sab par lagti hai, sach hai, aur us ko wapasi ka aisa raasta deti hai jis mein kisi ke ghar ka zikr nahin aata. Aksar log is ke baad do hafte ke andar kuch na kuch de dete hain.

Wo zid kare to wajahat na barhayein. Aik jumla, thande dil se dohraya hua, teen wajahaton se zyada mazboot hota hai. Wajahat bahas bulati hai, hadd nahin bulati.

Ittila khud aik bari khabar hai

Aik baat saaf kehni chahiye, kyunki isi ko nazarandaz karne par dukandar pachhtate hain.

Ghar ka koi fard dukan mein aa kar yeh kehne lage to yeh gap shap nahin hai. Yeh wo ghar hai jo baqi sab kuch aazma chuka hai. Koi apne ghar ki niji baat kisi ajnabi ke counter par tab tak nahin kehta jab tak baat bohat aage na barh chuki ho.

To agar aap kuch aur na bhi karein, is ko us khate ke khatre ke baare mein pakki khabar samjhein. Usi shaam raqam dekhein. Dekhein ke yeh kitne arse se barh rahi hai aur adaigiyan choti hoti ja rahi hain ya nahin. Aksar aap ko nazar aayega ke khata pehle hi usi taraf ja raha tha, aur aap ise sust mahine ki tarah parh rahe the. Isi tarah to raqam saal bhar baithi rehti hai aur kisi ko pata nahin chalta.

Us ke liye sab se bari mehrbani, aur aap ke liye sab se mehfooz qadam, yehi hai ke abhi barhna rok dein aur talluq qayam rakhein. Jis customer ki raqam wo ada kar sakta ho wo customer hai. Jis ki raqam wo ada na kar sake wo dono ke liye masla hai, aur pehli haalat se doosri tak ka raasta aksar chhota aur khamosh hota hai.

Sab kuch aik hi naam par rakhein

Jo bhi tay ho, record saaf rehna chahiye, kyunki jhagra aisay hi khaton par hota hai.

Jo us ne liya wo us ke khate mein rahe. Ghar walon ne jo diya wo bhi usi khate mein aaye, is note ke sath ke kis ne diya. Safai ke liye un ke naam par doosra safha na kholein. Aik ghar ke do safhe hi kul raqam kharab karte hain, aur yeh wohi uljhan hai jo ghar ka aik khata ya har fard ka alag rakhne mein aati hai.

Kaghaz par likhte hain to entry ke sath choti si line daal dein: ghar walon ne diya, tareekh, raqam. App mein rakhte hain to entry ka note isi kaam ke liye hai. Wasoolo mein har entry apna note aur apni tareekh rakhti hai, is liye kisi doosre ki ki hui adaigi saal baad bhi wohi dikhti hai, aur kisi ko baat yaad rakhne ki zaroorat nahin parti.

Aur us customer par koi rok ka nishan na lagayein aur wo baat kahin na likhein jahan wo khud parh sake. Kisi din wo apna khata dekh sakta hai, aur us mein apne ghar ka zikr aisa zakhm hai jo bharta nahin. Record sirf paisay ka rakhein. Wajah apne zehan mein rakhein. Yehi is poore maamle ka tawazun hai, aur yehi ehtiyat aap ko inkar ke baad bhi purane customer nibhane deti hai.

Wo kehti hain main us ki biwi hun aur paisa ghar ka hai, mujhe raqam janne ka haq hai.

Narmi se, nahin. Khata usi ka hai jis ne khulwaya. Keh dein ke aap kisi ka khata kisi doosre se zer-e-behes nahin karte, un ka bhi nahin, aur log yeh baat foran maan lete hain.

Us ko pata chal gaya ke ghar se koi aaya tha aur wo mujh se naraz hai. Kya kahun?

Us mulaqat ka zikr bilkul na karein. Apni baat par rahein: khata hadd ke qareeb hai, is liye naya saman nahin ja raha. Yeh sach hai aur yeh aap ka maamla hai, us ke ghar ka nahin.

Kya main us ko dodh aur roti jaisi rozana ki choti cheezein dene dun?

De sakte hain aur aksar yehi samajhdari hai. Saaf bata dein ke kaun si cheezein khuli hain aur usi par qayam rahein. Poori rok saza lagti hai, hadd wali rok usool lagti hai.

Ghar walon ne raqam saaf kar di aur hafte baad wo phir saman maangne aa gaya.

To naye sire se faisla karein, jaise wo naya customer ho. Dobara shuru karein to chhota shuru karein aur pehli do adaigiyan gaur se dekhein. Yeh har wade se zyada batati hain.

Agar ghar ka nahin balke koi paros wala mujhe aagah kare to?

Baat sun lein, jawab mein kuch na dein, aur khata khud jaanchein. Amal us par karein jo record dikhata hai, us par nahin jo koi doosra kehta hai.

Kya main keh sakta hun ke us ko sath le aayein taake sab ke samne tay ho jaye?

Peshkash kar sakte hain, zid na karein. Agar wo us ko la sakti hotin to akeli aane ki nobat hi na aati.