Udhaar se mana kaise karein bina rishta kharab kiye

Aap inkar kar sakte hain aur kuch bhi kharab nahin hoga. Ek usool rakhein jo us ke aane se pehle mojood tha, usay ek thande jumle mein keh dein, aur khali inkar ki jagah kuch chhota pesh karein. Jo inkar zaati lagta hai wohi customer le jata hai.

Counter par yeh lafz kehna mushkil kyun lagta hai

Udhaar koi khali waqt mein nahin maangta. Log tab maangte hain jab dukan bhari hoti hai, jab do banday peeche khare intezar kar rahe hote hain, aur jab buland awaz mein inkar sab ko sunai dega.

Yeh ittefaq nahin hai. Maangne wale ko kahin na kahin pata hota hai ke bhare counter par dukandar sab se naram hota hai. Aap chahte hain qatar chalti rahe, koi tamasha na bane, aur dono cheezein sab se jaldi is tarah milti hain ke packet pakra dein aur naam likh lein.

Ek aur cheez aap ko kheenchti hai. Kisi shakhs ko na kehna aisa lagta hai jaise aap us shakhs par faisla suna rahe hon. Lagta hai aap us ke parosiyon ke saamne keh rahe hain ke woh qabil e aitbaar nahin, aur yeh un chaar sau rupay se kaheen bari baat hai jo asal mein counter par pare hain.

To jumla kabhi zuban se nikalta hi nahin, aur mahine ke aakhir mein khate mein gyarah naye naam mojood hote hain jinhein aap ne kabhi shamil karne ka faisla kiya hi nahin tha. Woh faisle the hi nahin. Woh sirf lamhe the jahan inkar bohat mehnga tha.

Hal yeh nahin ke aap sakht aadmi ban jayein. Hal yeh hai ke aap ke paas kehne ko kuch aisa ho jis ka us shakhs se koi taluq hi na ho.

Usool us ke maangne se pehle tay karein

Jo usool aap kisi ke saamne khare hote hue banayein woh usool nahin hota. Woh bahana hota hai, sunai bhi bahana deta hai, aur yeh baat aap dono jaante hain.

Is liye apna usool kisi aam din tay karein, jab koi kuch maang nahin raha. Us ke sirf teen hisse chahiye: udhaar milta kisay hai, kitne ki hadd hai, aur darwaza band kis baat par hota hai. Itni saadi baat ke "sirf purane customer, ek hafte ke aam saude jitna, aur purana khula ho to naya kuch nahin" barson dukan chalane ke liye kaafi hai.

Isay likhne ka faida likhai nahin hai. Faida yeh hai ke jo usool thande waqt mein tay hua ho woh mushkil waqt mein usi seedhi awaz mein dohraya ja sakta hai jis awaz mein aap kehte hain ke dukan nau baje band hoti hai. Us ke peeche ke numbers nikalne ke liye kitna udhaar dena chahiye mojood hai.

Phir yeh usool sab ko zubani, pehle se, aam dinon mein bata dein. Koi ailan nahin, bas aam baat cheet mein. Jab logon ko pehle se maloom ho ke purana khula ho to dukan naya udhaar band rakhti hai, to un mein se aadhe maangte hi nahin, aur jo maangte hain unhein jawab par hairat nahin hoti.

Jo usool farmaish se pehle pohanche woh usool hai. Jo baad mein pohanche woh inkar hai.

Woh jumle jo bina dil dukhaye mana karte hain

Jo inkar log qubool kar lete hain aur jo inkar unhein chubhta hai, un ke darmiyan farq taqreeban poora ka poora alfaz ka hai. Wohi jawab, wohi raqam, bilkul alag natija.

Inkar aise karein ke shakhs ki izzat qaim rahe

✓Yeh kahein

• "Jab tak purana saaf nahin hota main naya udhaar band rakhta hoon. Sab ke liye yehi hai."
• "Aaj le jayein aur jumay ko de dein, itna main kar sakta hoon."
• "Mere apne supplier ko peer ko paisa chahiye. Mere haath bandhe hain."
• "Aadha abhi, aadha jab aap dobara aayein. Itna aasan hai."

✕Yeh na kahein

• "Aap kabhi waqt par nahin dete."
• "Kisi aur se poochein, main aap ki madad nahin kar sakta."
• Lambi safai jo us se bhi lambi behas bula leti hai
• Counter par haan aur agli baar khamoshi se taal dena

Dekhein ke baayein khane ke jumlon mein mushtarik kya hai. Un mein se har jumla halat ki taraf ishara karta hai: purana balance, din, supplier, dukan ka apna usool. Un mein se koi bhi us aadmi ki taraf ishara nahin karta.

Poora tareeqa yehi hai. "Aap kabhi waqt par nahin dete" ek shakhs par faisla hai aur woh apna difa karega, buland awaz mein, kyunke aap ne bhari jagah par usay us ki izzat ka masla bana diya. "Purana khula ho to naya kuch nahin" ek khate ke baare mein bayan hai, aur us mein larne ko kuch hai hi nahin.

Baat chhoti bhi rakhein. Lambi safai maazrat lagti hai, aur maazrat aisi lagti hai jaise us par sauda ho sakta hai. Ek jumla, phir agle customer ki taraf, aur lamha yun guzar jata hai ke kisi ko khabar bhi nahin hoti.

Aur jab balance ka number batana hi pare to aahista batayein, ya us se behtar, counter par bilkul na batayein. Paise ki jo baat doosre customer sun lein wohi chhote inkar ko us kahani mein badalti hai jo aage bayan hoti hai, aur isi wajah se apna paisa wapas maangne mein jagah ka khayal zaroori hai.

Khule counter ki asal qeemat kya hai

Apne aap se saaf rehna zaroori hai ke yeh usool hai kis liye, kyunke jis usool par aap ka apna yaqeen na ho woh kisi mushkil customer ke saamne tik nahin sakta.

Farz karein aap mahine mein chaar chhoti farmaishein taal dete hain

Chaaron counter se kitna le jateRs 9,000

Us mein se kitna waqt par wapas aata haiRs 6,000

Wada shuda din ke baad kitna atka rehta haiRs 3,000

Wohi paisa shelf par kitna maal la sakta thaRs 3,000 ka maal

Inkar dar asal kis sawal ka jawab haiShelf ya kisi aur ki jeb

Baat yeh nahin ke udhaar bura hai. Udhaar wohi cheez hai jo dukan ke purane customer bandhe rakhti hai, aur jo dukan sab ko mana kar deti hai woh saath wali us dukan se haar jati hai jo mana nahin karti.

Baat yeh hai ke shelf par para paisa aap ke liye kaam karta hai aur kisi ke ghar mein para paisa nahin karta. Khuli tareekh par bahar gaya har rupya woh rupya hai jo us tez bikne wali cheez ko nahin la sakta jo jumerat ko khatam ho gayi thi. Asal kharch yehi hai, aur yeh aap ke khate mein kahin nuqsan ban kar nazar nahin aata.

Ek doosra kharch bhi hai aur usay dukandar kam samajhte hain. Har naya naam jo aap ne faisla kiye bagair likha hai woh ek guftagu hai jo aap ko baad mein, kisi bure din, us paise par karni paregi jo tab tak purana ho chuka hoga. Inkar mein das second lagte hain. Wasooli mein hafte lagte hain.

Khali inkar ki jagah kuch chhota pesh karein

Ab woh hissa jo sab kuch badal deta hai, aur zyadatar dukandar yahan bohat der se pohanchte hain: aap ke saamne khare shakhs ko taqreeban kabhi poori raqam ki zaroorat nahin hoti. Usay bas sauda le kar jana hai aur aisi tareekh chahiye jo woh nibha sake.

Khali inkar ki jagah chaar cheezein pesh karein

1. 1Chhoti raqam, jo aap khud tay kareinWoh poore hafte ka sauda maangta hai aur aap ek din ka de dete hain. Woh kuch le kar jata hai, aap ka khatra chhota rehta hai, aur bharose par behas karne ki nobat hi nahin aati.
2. 2Khuli tareekh ki jagah chhoti tareekhTeen din ka wada koi bhi nibha leta hai. Mahine ka wada kisi ko yaad hi nahin rehta. Din ka naam zubani bata dena hi wasooli ka aadha kaam hai.
3. 3Counter par thora sa paisaJo kuch us ki jeb mein hai woh baqi ke muqable mein le lein. Aaj chalne wala paisa khata zinda rakhta hai, aur imandari se bata deta hai ke us ka hafta kaisa ja raha hai.
4. 4Wapas aane ka saaf darwazaBaat shart par khatam karein, inkar par nahin. "Yeh saaf karein, agla phir khula hai" inkar ko ek qadam bana deta hai, aur woh saaf karne wapas aata hai.

Pehla qadam ek mahine azma kar dekhein. Koi poore hafte ka maal udhaar maangta hai, aap usay ek din ka de dete hain aur kehte hain baqi jumay ko, aur woh le leta hai. Usay bura nahin lagta, kyunke woh khali haath nahin gaya. Aap khatre mein nahin, kyunke raqam itni chhoti hai ke bhool bhi jayein to chalta hai.

Chautha qadam apni shakal se zyada ahem hai. Baat shart par khatam karna, inkar par nahin, yeh badal deta hai ke woh dukan se kya le kar nikalta hai. "Main nahin kar sakta" band darwaza hai aur woh doosri dukan dhoond lega. "Yeh saaf karein, agla phir khula hai" ek kaam hai, aur log kaam poora karne wapas aate hain.

Isi tarah un logon ke saath taluq bhi salamat rehta hai jinhein aap asal mein mana kar hi nahin sakte, aur woh alag aur zyada mushkil masla rishtedaron ko udhaar dena mein khula hai.

Jab woh doosri aur teesri baar maange

Kuch log pehla inkar qubool kar lete hain. Chand nahin karte, aur aap ko pehle se pata hona chahiye ke doosra aur teesra jawab kaisa hoga, kyunke mauqe par sochna hi usool ko maar deta hai.

Doosri farmaish aksar yeh aazmane ke liye hoti hai ke usool sach much hai ya nahin. Us ka jawab bilkul wohi alfaz aur wohi lehja hai jo pehli baar tha. Koi nayi wajah na jorein. Nayi wajah naya darwaza hai, aur woh phir usi par zor lagayega.

Teesri farmaish ke saath aksar dabao aata hai: woh yaad dilata hai ke woh kitne arse se yahan se sauda leta hai, ya awaz thori si oonchi karta hai, ya kehta hai saamne wali dukan yeh kar deti. Aap usool par rahein aur khush mizaj rahein. "Ho sakta hai. Mera usool sab ke liye ek jaisa hai" baat larai ke bagair khatam kar deta hai, aur yeh sach bhi hai.

Agar woh ghusse mein nikal jaye to nikalne dein. Woh wapas aayega, kyunke aap ki dukan qareeb hai aur aap ke rate theek hain, aur ghussa us lamhe par tha, aap par nahin. Jis baat se woh wapas nahin aata woh apne jaan pehchan walon ke saamne beizzati hai.

Aur us kam pesh aane wali soorat mein jahan raqam bari ho aur shakhs waqai qabil e bharosa ho, aap ke paas ek option hai jo na haan hai na na: koi aisa shakhs le lein jo us ka zimma le. Yeh danish mandi hai ya nahin, yeh halat par hai, aur zamin kab lena chahiye dono pehlu khol deta hai.

Aam sawalat

Mera behtareen customer tha aur main ne mana kar diya. Kya woh haath se nikal gaya?

Taqreeban yaqeeni tor par nahin, bashart e ke inkar usool par tha, us par nahin. Log usool samajh lete hain; jo woh maaf nahin karte woh alag se nishana banaya jana hai. Agar fikar ho to marammat chhoti si hai aur chalti hai: agli baar jab woh aaye to aam se zyada garam joshi dikhayein, ghar walon ka haal poochein, aur inkar ka zikr bilkul na karein. Usay dobara chherna hi usay aap dono ke darmiyan masla bana deta hai.

Agar woh kahe ke saamne wali dukan khul kar udhaar deti hai to?

Khush dili se maan lein aur is par muqabla na karein. "Ho sakta hai, mera usool sab ke liye ek jaisa hai" poora jawab hai. Jo dukan apni sakat se zyada de kar customer jeetti hai woh jeet nahin rahi, woh apne maal ke paise se customer khareed rahi hai, aur aisa muqabla jeet kar bhi haar hi hai.

Behtar yeh hai ke banday se katrayein ya narm si haan keh dein?

Dono nahin, aur narm haan zyada mehngi ghalti hai. Counter par maan lena aur agli baar khamoshi se taal dena usay uljhan mein daal deta hai aur aap ko be imaan dikhata hai, aur ek saaf guftagu ko teen ajeeb guftagu bana deta hai. Peer ka saaf inkar us dhundli haan se sasta hai jo poore mahine mein bikharti hai.

Jo shakhs waqai musibat mein ho usay kaise mana karein?

Apne zehan mein dono cheezein alag rakhein. Madad, agar aap dena chahein, ek shakhs ke baare mein faisla hai aur woh aap ka apna hai. Udhaar aap ki dukan ke chalne wale paise ke baare mein faisla hai. Agar aap madad ka faisla karein to usay tohfa samajh kar dein jis ka hisab aap ne kar liya hai aur jo kabhi wapas nahin aana, aur usay khate se bilkul bahar rakhein, kyunke jo raqam khate mein wajib ul ada pari rahegi wohi us taluq ko kharab karegi jise aap bachana chahte the.

Kya apna usool dukan mein board par likh dena chahiye?

Chhoti, khush akhlaq si ek line kuch dukanon mein achhi lagti hai aur kuch mein sakht, to yeh aap ke bazaar par hai. Agar lagayein to usay dukan ki apni aadat ki tarah likhein, dhamki ki tarah nahin, chhota rakhein, aur jab koi maang raha ho to us ki taraf ishara hargiz na karein. Board is liye hai ke jawab pehle se mutawaqqa ho, is liye nahin ke woh jawab aap ki jagah de de.

Us ne inkar qubool kar liya lekin aana chhor diya. Ab kya?

Do hafte dein aur phir us ke saath aam sulook karein: bahar mile to salam karein, aur agar kisi chhoti cheez ke liye andar aaye to usay yun sarve karein jaise kuch hua hi na ho. Zyadatar log sharmindagi utarne ke baad khud hi laut aate hain. Isay tez woh dukandar karta hai jo yun pesh aata hai jaise sharminda hone ko kabhi kuch tha hi nahin.